Mindset

Mindset is at the heart of everything we do. It impacts the way we see ourselves and others, the way we connect with our children and loved ones, the way we look after ourselves and the way we respond to challenges and changes. Our mindset directly impacts our happiness, resilience and what happens in our lives. Here you’ll find practical information, tips and stories from my own experience that will help you develop a helpful mindset for a happier, more confident life.

The beliefs that are making it hard for you to take a break

The beliefs that are making it hard for you to take a break

Does taking a break feel impossible? The sheer thought it makes you anxious or uncomfortable? Motherhood can feel all consuming, and when you add all the other responsibilities you're carrying, there just doesn’t seem to be time for a break. I’m not even necessarily...

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Why a good enough mother is truly good enough

Why a good enough mother is truly good enough

Do you feel like you’re constantly comparing yourself or being compared to the ideal of a perfect mother? With so much information and advice out there “helping” us to get things “right” so that our children will be the most intelligent, happiest and the most...

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How self-compassion can help you feel happier and more content

How self-compassion can help you feel happier and more content

When things aren't going the way we want them to, or we aren't coping as well as we think we should be, we can get caught up in criticising and judging ourselves. This can seem like a helpful and productive way to motivate ourselves to better actions and outcomes but...

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Confirmation bias: why your brain wants to prove you right

Confirmation bias: why your brain wants to prove you right

There's something important you need to know about your brain.  It likes to be right.  Being right feels good (thanks to the chemicals released in your brain) and it takes way less energy than always challenging your current view of the world. This means that, thanks...

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How to be a calmer, more connected parent

How to be a calmer, more connected parent

Do you ever wish you were a calmer parent? A more connected parent?  I think we all have moments where we miss the bar we set for ourselves in these areas. Parenting challenges us in ways we've never been challenged before and with every new child, and every new...

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How to ease loneliness in motherhood

How to ease loneliness in motherhood

Since late last year, I’ve had the privilege of looking after my stepdaughter’s beautiful baby girl once a week. It’s a pretty fortunate position to be in; I get to enjoy all the cuddles, smiles and fun, and build a lovely connection with her, but then (providing my...

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Is this the life you really want?

Is this the life you really want?

When you think about your life as it is now, how do you feel? How do you want to feel? How similar or different are your two responses?   I don’t know about you, but motherhood was not quite what I thought it would be.  Somehow, I thought it would be easier and...

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How to beat procrastination right now

How to beat procrastination right now

Disclosure: This post contains an affiliate link, and at no additional cost to you, I’ll earn a small commission if you decide to purchase after clicking through the link. I’ll only ever recommend things that I love and believe will help you, and the decision to...

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Create the life you want by being 100% responsible

Create the life you want by being 100% responsible

It’s nearly the end of the year and many of us are reflecting, thinking about what we’ve accomplished (or not quite achieved), enjoyed, found challenging and what we want to be different for the coming year. How has 2019 been for you? Has it fulfilled you? Brought you...

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Set clear boundaries to stay sane and enjoy Christmas

Set clear boundaries to stay sane and enjoy Christmas

The Christmas season provides plenty of opportunities to go beyond your usual limits. For example: How much you spend How often you socialise How much alcohol you drink How many responsibilities you take on How much sleep you get What you eat Who you spend time with....

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How to stop people pleasing

How to stop people pleasing

In my previous blog post, I wrote about how to say no with kindness and respect. While exploring the reasons that saying no is difficult, something came up that really resonated with the More to Mum community – people pleasing. I received numerous messages from mums,...

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How to say no with kindness and respect

How to say no with kindness and respect

I get asked for advice on how to say no all the time and I realised I hadn’t actually written a blog about it! So, here we are. Do you ever think “no, no, no, no, no “ and then hear the word “yes” slip out of your mouth? Or, do you say yes, and then spend ages feeling...

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How to practice mindfulness for a happier, calmer you

How to practice mindfulness for a happier, calmer you

Do you: Find it hard to focus or be present with the people you love? Notice your mind always racing, thinking of what’s next, worrying about the future and replaying the past? Find yourself on autopilot, not really conscious of what you're doing? Feel exhausted,...

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What are you saying yes and no to?

What are you saying yes and no to?

Disclosure: This post contains affiliate links, and at no additional cost to you, I'll earn a small commission if you decide to purchase after clicking through the links. I'll only ever recommend things that I love and believe will help you, and the decision to...

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Matrescence: why mothers are feeling lost and confused

Matrescence: why mothers are feeling lost and confused

Disclosure: This post contains an affiliate link, and at no additional cost to you, I’ll earn a small commission if you decide to purchase after clicking through the link. I’ll only ever recommend things that I love and believe will help you, and the decision to...

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What’s your definition of a successful day?

What’s your definition of a successful day?

Life comes with a multitude of definitions of success In my years as a corporate workaholic, my success was defined by a whole lot of external measures. The number of hours I worked, the company I worked at, the hierarchical level of my position, the targets I hit,...

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How to be more present in your life – Part 2

How to be more present in your life – Part 2

This is part 2 in a 2 part blog post series on how to be more present in your life. You can find part 1 here.   In the first part of this blog series on how to be more present in your life, I shared this statistic with you: People are thinking about something...

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How to be more present in your life – Part 1

How to be more present in your life – Part 1

This is part 1 of a 2 part series on how to be more present in your life. You can find part 2 here.    Where are you right now? Physically, you might be at home, in the car, at work, at the park. Sitting, standing, lying down, rocking, walking. And you’re...

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8 surprising and effective ways to overcome overwhelm

8 surprising and effective ways to overcome overwhelm

I’ve had quite a lot of practice at dealing with overwhelm over the years. When I was younger, I was always so keen to be involved in everything and to do everything to my perfectionistic standards, that sometimes it all just became too much. I also had a tendency to...

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How to improve your relationships with mindful communication

How to improve your relationships with mindful communication

We are communicating all the time, with our significant other, our children, our friends and co-workers, but are we doing it in a mindful manner or are we just saying the first thing that comes to mind? Communication should be easy right?  We hear someone say...

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How to Get That Sexy Spark Back After Kids

How to Get That Sexy Spark Back After Kids

Turn up the heat in your bedroom Being parents is a lot of fun, and stress, but mainly fun. But, let’s not pretend it doesn’t make it hard when it comes to feeling sexy and finding “mummy and daddy” time. I know. I have three kids, I get it. So, let’s look at how we...

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5 reasons you should know and accept your strengths

5 reasons you should know and accept your strengths

One of the things that regularly strikes me in conversations with mums, is that so many of us are reluctant to acknowledge our own strengths. We've created some clever strategies for avoiding it. We deflect with humour, point out the things that are wrong with us,...

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What you need to know to change your relationship with anxiety

What you need to know to change your relationship with anxiety

The relationship that the majority of the population has with their anxiety is definitely not a very good one. It is often toxic, fractured and built up on a foundation of fear. I can already hear you ask, “Why would I have a good relationship with my anxiety??” or...

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15 helpful ways to deal with not feeling good enough

15 helpful ways to deal with not feeling good enough

So many mums feel like they are not good enough, every day. This feeling goes beyond mum guilt (which is already a challenge). Feeling not good enough creates shame within us. Brene Brown defines the difference between guilt and shame:   “I believe that guilt is...

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32 ways to stay calm in the moment (Part 2)

32 ways to stay calm in the moment (Part 2)

This is part 2 of my 2-part blog post series on staying calm in the moment. Part 1 contains the first 16 strategies. You can find it here.  I certainly needed my strategies for staying calm this week.  How about you? Every mum experiences times when she doesn't feel...

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32 ways to stay calm in the moment (Part 1)

32 ways to stay calm in the moment (Part 1)

This is part 1 of my two-part blog post series on staying calm in the moment. You can find part 2 here.   When I asked the mums in the More to Mum community to describe how they would like to feel in motherhood, calm was one of the top responses. Before we have...

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How to accept things as they are (without giving up)

How to accept things as they are (without giving up)

My son is starting 4 year old kindergarten in just 3 weeks. I’m feeling a mixture of pride, excitement and trepidation. He seems so ready but at the same time he’s still so little. After 4 and a half years of being with me nearly all the time, he’s off into the world...

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4 shifts that brought me more happiness, peace and confidence

4 shifts that brought me more happiness, peace and confidence

Do you ever think about how you’ve changed and evolved throughout your life? As I turn 40 this week, I’ve been reflecting on exactly that. Whilst my core values haven’t really changed, I’m definitely not the same person I was in my 20s. Last weekend, I was blessed to...

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Practice self-awareness for your best Christmas yet

Practice self-awareness for your best Christmas yet

Does the thought of the Christmas season make you feel excited or does it fill you with dread? I am totally obsessed with Christmas. As one of my friends pointed out, I’m one of those people, who puts their Christmas tree and decorations up as soon as it hits...

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