Self Care

When your own wellbeing is compromised, it’s incredibly difficult to look after your children’s wellbeing. Especially in the longer term. Self care is not a luxury. It’s not selfish and it doesn’t mean you don’t love your children as much as yourself. Self care is something all mums need and deserve. Think “me too” rather than “me first”. I am passionate about making self care manageable and realistic in the midst of the chaos of motherhood. Here you’ll find lots of inspiration, tips and examples to help you look after yourself. You matter too.

How to stop rushing through life

How to stop rushing through life

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Are your expectations creating the reality you want?

Are your expectations creating the reality you want?

When my son was about 16 months old, I started to think about returning to work. I'd always expected I would return to the demanding corporate job that I loved. That’s what career women do. I expected I would place my son in childcare. That’s what working mothers do....

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How to deal with a bad day

How to deal with a bad day

I know that we’re expected to be loving motherhood, sailing through each day with a smile on our faces. That’s the myth of the perfect mum. In reality, we all have bad days and we don’t have to pretend that everything is wonderful when it’s not. Allowing ourselves to...

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When self-care feels like another thing you have to get right

When self-care feels like another thing you have to get right

Ever feel like you’re getting this self-care thing wrong? Not doing enough or doing too much. Not wanting to do it, not enjoying it enough or doing it with so much guilt. Not being consistent, not sticking to your plans or not starting at all. Not doing the right...

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Goodbye perfectionism, I don’t need you anymore

Goodbye perfectionism, I don’t need you anymore

Dear Perfectionism, I’ve decided it’s time we parted ways. We’ve been together a long time. I’m not even sure how it happened, but somewhere in childhood you became my constant companion. You came with me into adulthood and by that time I thought you were an asset. I...

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When you feel like you’ve lost your identity in motherhood

When you feel like you’ve lost your identity in motherhood

I don't know about you, but no one ever mentioned to me that motherhood might change who I am.  I received plenty of advice and information about how to care for my baby and some guidance around how to tend to my own practical needs, like sleep, nutrition and...

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How to deal with anger in motherhood – Part 2

How to deal with anger in motherhood – Part 2

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How to deal with anger in motherhood – Part 1

How to deal with anger in motherhood – Part 1

I’m fascinated by volcanoes. My heart raced with excitement and awe when I stood in the hot steam rising from the ground, walked across kilometres of lava rock, and flew in a helicopter over the crater of the active volcano in Hawaii.          When...

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5 things that help create balance in your life

5 things that help create balance in your life

Balance. It can be a tricky topic. Some women idealise the concept of balance and are constantly trying to achieve it. Others reject the idea that it’s possible and refuse to use the word at all. Some prefer to call it integration or harmony. Let's have a quick look...

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The beliefs that are making it hard for you to take a break

The beliefs that are making it hard for you to take a break

Does taking a break feel impossible? The sheer thought it makes you anxious or uncomfortable? Motherhood can feel all consuming, and when you add all the other responsibilities you're carrying, there just doesn’t seem to be time for a break. I’m not even necessarily...

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How to make exercise easier and boost your mood

How to make exercise easier and boost your mood

Many mums have told me that while they know exercise is important for wellbeing, they struggle to make it a part of their regular activities. That's why I've invited Claire Cole, Personal Trainer and Founder of Movement for Mums, to share her insights into how to make...

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Gut health – why is it so important?

Gut health – why is it so important?

You may have heard the buzz around gut health lately. It seems like gut health is the new “in vogue” thing when it comes to the health industry and the products marketed to us at the moment. Luckily, this is one trend that I can really get behind, because the...

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Why a good enough mother is truly good enough

Why a good enough mother is truly good enough

Do you feel like you’re constantly comparing yourself or being compared to the ideal of a perfect mother? With so much information and advice out there “helping” us to get things “right” so that our children will be the most intelligent, happiest and the most...

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How self-compassion can help you feel happier and more content

How self-compassion can help you feel happier and more content

When things aren't going the way we want them to, or we aren't coping as well as we think we should be, we can get caught up in criticising and judging ourselves. This can seem like a helpful and productive way to motivate ourselves to better actions and outcomes but...

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How to find alone time when you’re never alone

How to find alone time when you’re never alone

Alone time is an important part of caring for our wellbeing. Having time to just be who we are, to rest and relax, helps us feel happier, healthier, more energised and refreshed. Without it, in the long run, we can start to see negative impacts to our mental,...

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Confirmation bias: why your brain wants to prove you right

Confirmation bias: why your brain wants to prove you right

There's something important you need to know about your brain.  It likes to be right.  Being right feels good (thanks to the chemicals released in your brain) and it takes way less energy than always challenging your current view of the world. This means that, thanks...

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How to ease loneliness in motherhood

How to ease loneliness in motherhood

Since late last year, I’ve had the privilege of looking after my stepdaughter’s beautiful baby girl once a week. It’s a pretty fortunate position to be in; I get to enjoy all the cuddles, smiles and fun, and build a lovely connection with her, but then (providing my...

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Is this the life you really want?

Is this the life you really want?

When you think about your life as it is now, how do you feel? How do you want to feel? How similar or different are your two responses?   I don’t know about you, but motherhood was not quite what I thought it would be.  Somehow, I thought it would be easier and...

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How to beat procrastination right now

How to beat procrastination right now

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Create the life you want by being 100% responsible

Create the life you want by being 100% responsible

It’s nearly the end of the year and many of us are reflecting, thinking about what we’ve accomplished (or not quite achieved), enjoyed, found challenging and what we want to be different for the coming year. How has 2019 been for you? Has it fulfilled you? Brought you...

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Set clear boundaries to stay sane and enjoy Christmas

Set clear boundaries to stay sane and enjoy Christmas

The Christmas season provides plenty of opportunities to go beyond your usual limits. For example: How much you spend How often you socialise How much alcohol you drink How many responsibilities you take on How much sleep you get What you eat Who you spend time with....

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Exhausted all the time? 7 types of rest you need

Exhausted all the time? 7 types of rest you need

“How are you?” “I'm exhausted all the time” “Well, that’s to be expected, you’re a mum!”   Have you ever had a conversation like that? It seems to be a commonly held belief that once you enter motherhood, you are destined to be exhausted for a looooong time. At...

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How to stop people pleasing

How to stop people pleasing

In my previous blog post, I wrote about how to say no with kindness and respect. While exploring the reasons that saying no is difficult, something came up that really resonated with the More to Mum community – people pleasing. I received numerous messages from mums,...

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How to say no with kindness and respect

How to say no with kindness and respect

I get asked for advice on how to say no all the time and I realised I hadn’t actually written a blog about it! So, here we are. Do you ever think “no, no, no, no, no “ and then hear the word “yes” slip out of your mouth? Or, do you say yes, and then spend ages feeling...

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How to practice mindfulness for a happier, calmer you

How to practice mindfulness for a happier, calmer you

Do you: Find it hard to focus or be present with the people you love? Notice your mind always racing, thinking of what’s next, worrying about the future and replaying the past? Find yourself on autopilot, not really conscious of what you're doing? Feel exhausted,...

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Build Your Tribe With People Who Are Right For You

Build Your Tribe With People Who Are Right For You

Have you found your tribe?   "You know, the ones that make you feel the most YOU. The ones that lift you up and help you remember who you really are. The ones that remind you that a blip in the road is just that, a blip. They are the ones that when you walk out...

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What are you saying yes and no to?

What are you saying yes and no to?

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Matrescence: why mothers are feeling lost and confused

Matrescence: why mothers are feeling lost and confused

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