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Using your values to create a rich and fulfilling life

Using your values to create a rich and fulfilling life

Do you know what your personal values are? Defining and aligning to our personal values can help us feel motivated, inspired and live a rich and meaningful life. When we know what’s most important to us we can look for ways to have more of this in our lives. In...

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How to ask for help

How to ask for help

You know you need some help and you’ve decided you’re going to ask for it. That’s a huge step in itself. Asking for help can be really hard, especially for mothers in modern society where there are some very unrealistic expectations placed on women to do it all,...

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Why it’s so hard to ask for help

Why it’s so hard to ask for help

“Can you help me?” Four little words. They seem so simple yet mothers everywhere find them near impossible to say. What makes it hard is the meaning we attribute to asking for help. Without that meaning, asking for help is a neutral activity, neither positive or...

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Automatic Negative Thoughts: How to Identify and Manage Them

Automatic Negative Thoughts: How to Identify and Manage Them

Automatic negative thoughts (ANTs) are stories that we tell ourselves that aren’t necessarily true. They are distortions or negative interpretations of ourselves, what is happening around us, the past or the future, based on our beliefs and assumptions. ANTs happen...

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Why mothers need to speak up instead of staying silent

Why mothers need to speak up instead of staying silent

Have there been times when you have you kept quiet when you had something to say? For example, when... Someone crossed your boundary or hurt you? Another child mistreated your child? You didn’t want to do something you were being asked to do? You didn’t agree? Someone...

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The truth about the difficult emotions of motherhood

The truth about the difficult emotions of motherhood

Sadness, burnout, fear, guilt, anxiety, loneliness, frustration, anger, resentment, shame, embarrassment, disgust. Mothers feel them. But often we don’t like to talk about them. What will people think? If perfect mum is always composed, in control, calm, happy, on top...

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Think you might be a perfectionist? 10 signs to look for

Think you might be a perfectionist? 10 signs to look for

Perfectionism is patterns of thinking and behaviours driven by the constant need to be or appear perfect (without flaws). It could also be described as the need to avoid being inadequate (anything less than perfect). For many years I proudly called myself a...

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How to interrupt the pattern of self blame

How to interrupt the pattern of self blame

When my son was 4, he was playing in the playground after kindergarten and decided to give the monkey bars a try. He always watched the other children swinging across but still liked me to hold him as he moved his arms from bar to bar. This time he wanted to do it...

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Learning the art of letting go. Again.

Learning the art of letting go. Again.

Letting go is a lesson and practice we live through over and over again. Life continues to present us with new opportunities to let go and sometimes we have such a tight grip on things, it takes several attempts to fully release. I love this quote from Ahjan Chah: “If...

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How to stop rushing through life

How to stop rushing through life

Disclosure: This post contains an affiliate link, and at no additional cost to you, I’ll earn a small commission if you decide to purchase after clicking through the link. I’ll only ever recommend things that I love and believe will help you, and the decision to...

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Are your expectations creating the reality you want?

Are your expectations creating the reality you want?

When my son was about 16 months old, I started to think about returning to work. I'd always expected I would return to the demanding corporate job that I loved. That’s what career women do. I expected I would place my son in childcare. That’s what working mothers do....

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How to deal with a bad day

How to deal with a bad day

I know that we’re expected to be loving motherhood, sailing through each day with a smile on our faces. That’s the myth of the perfect mum. In reality, we all have bad days and we don’t have to pretend that everything is wonderful when it’s not. Allowing ourselves to...

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Goodbye perfectionism, I don’t need you anymore

Goodbye perfectionism, I don’t need you anymore

Dear Perfectionism, I’ve decided it’s time we parted ways. We’ve been together a long time. I’m not even sure how it happened, but somewhere in childhood you became my constant companion. You came with me into adulthood and by that time I thought you were an asset. I...

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5 things that help create balance in your life

5 things that help create balance in your life

Balance. It can be a tricky topic. Some women idealise the concept of balance and are constantly trying to achieve it. Others reject the idea that it’s possible and refuse to use the word at all. Some prefer to call it integration or harmony. Let's have a quick look...

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The beliefs that are making it hard for you to take a break

The beliefs that are making it hard for you to take a break

Does taking a break feel impossible? The sheer thought it makes you anxious or uncomfortable? Motherhood can feel all consuming, and when you add all the other responsibilities you're carrying, there just doesn’t seem to be time for a break. I’m not even necessarily...

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How to find alone time when you’re never alone

How to find alone time when you’re never alone

Alone time is an important part of caring for our wellbeing. Having time to just be who we are, to rest and relax, helps us feel happier, healthier, more energised and refreshed. Without it, in the long run, we can start to see negative impacts to our mental,...

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Is this the life you really want?

Is this the life you really want?

When you think about your life as it is now, how do you feel? How do you want to feel? How similar or different are your two responses?   I don’t know about you, but motherhood was not quite what I thought it would be.  Somehow, I thought it would be easier and...

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How to beat procrastination right now

How to beat procrastination right now

Disclosure: This post contains an affiliate link, and at no additional cost to you, I’ll earn a small commission if you decide to purchase after clicking through the link. I’ll only ever recommend things that I love and believe will help you, and the decision to...

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Exhausted all the time? 7 types of rest you need

Exhausted all the time? 7 types of rest you need

“How are you?” “I'm exhausted all the time” “Well, that’s to be expected, you’re a mum!”   Have you ever had a conversation like that? It seems to be a commonly held belief that once you enter motherhood, you are destined to be exhausted for a looooong time. At...

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How to stop people pleasing

How to stop people pleasing

In my previous blog post, I wrote about how to say no with kindness and respect. While exploring the reasons that saying no is difficult, something came up that really resonated with the More to Mum community – people pleasing. I received numerous messages from mums,...

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How to say no with kindness and respect

How to say no with kindness and respect

I get asked for advice on how to say no all the time and I realised I hadn’t actually written a blog about it! So, here we are. Do you ever think “no, no, no, no, no “ and then hear the word “yes” slip out of your mouth? Or, do you say yes, and then spend ages feeling...

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How to practice mindfulness for a happier, calmer you

How to practice mindfulness for a happier, calmer you

Do you: Find it hard to focus or be present with the people you love? Notice your mind always racing, thinking of what’s next, worrying about the future and replaying the past? Find yourself on autopilot, not really conscious of what you're doing? Feel exhausted,...

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What are you saying yes and no to?

What are you saying yes and no to?

Disclosure: This post contains affiliate links, and at no additional cost to you, I'll earn a small commission if you decide to purchase after clicking through the links. I'll only ever recommend things that I love and believe will help you, and the decision to...

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Matrescence: why mothers are feeling lost and confused

Matrescence: why mothers are feeling lost and confused

Disclosure: This post contains an affiliate link, and at no additional cost to you, I’ll earn a small commission if you decide to purchase after clicking through the link. I’ll only ever recommend things that I love and believe will help you, and the decision to...

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What’s your definition of a successful day?

What’s your definition of a successful day?

Life comes with a multitude of definitions of success In my years as a corporate workaholic, my success was defined by a whole lot of external measures. The number of hours I worked, the company I worked at, the hierarchical level of my position, the targets I hit,...

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How to be more present in your life – Part 2

How to be more present in your life – Part 2

This is part 2 in a 2 part blog post series on how to be more present in your life. You can find part 1 here.   In the first part of this blog series on how to be more present in your life, I shared this statistic with you: People are thinking about something...

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How to be more present in your life – Part 1

How to be more present in your life – Part 1

This is part 1 of a 2 part series on how to be more present in your life. You can find part 2 here.    Where are you right now? Physically, you might be at home, in the car, at work, at the park. Sitting, standing, lying down, rocking, walking. And you’re...

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8 surprising and effective ways to overcome overwhelm

8 surprising and effective ways to overcome overwhelm

I’ve had quite a lot of practice at dealing with overwhelm over the years. When I was younger, I was always so keen to be involved in everything and to do everything to my perfectionistic standards, that sometimes it all just became too much. I also had a tendency to...

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How to sleep better: 10 practical strategies

How to sleep better: 10 practical strategies

Disclosure: This post contains affiliate links, and at no additional cost to you, I’ll earn a small commission if you decide to purchase after clicking through the link. I’ll only ever recommend things that I love and believe will help you, and the decision to...

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What you need to know to change your relationship with anxiety

What you need to know to change your relationship with anxiety

The relationship that the majority of the population has with their anxiety is definitely not a very good one. It is often toxic, fractured and built up on a foundation of fear. I can already hear you ask, “Why would I have a good relationship with my anxiety??” or...

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32 ways to stay calm in the moment (Part 2)

32 ways to stay calm in the moment (Part 2)

This is part 2 of my 2-part blog post series on staying calm in the moment. Part 1 contains the first 16 strategies. You can find it here.  I certainly needed my strategies for staying calm this week.  How about you? Every mum experiences times when she doesn't feel...

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32 ways to stay calm in the moment (Part 1)

32 ways to stay calm in the moment (Part 1)

This is part 1 of my two-part blog post series on staying calm in the moment. You can find part 2 here.   When I asked the mums in the More to Mum community to describe how they would like to feel in motherhood, calm was one of the top responses. Before we have...

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4 shifts that brought me more happiness, peace and confidence

4 shifts that brought me more happiness, peace and confidence

Do you ever think about how you’ve changed and evolved throughout your life? As I turn 40 this week, I’ve been reflecting on exactly that. Whilst my core values haven’t really changed, I’m definitely not the same person I was in my 20s. Last weekend, I was blessed to...

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Practice self-awareness for your best Christmas yet

Practice self-awareness for your best Christmas yet

Does the thought of the Christmas season make you feel excited or does it fill you with dread? I am totally obsessed with Christmas. As one of my friends pointed out, I’m one of those people, who puts their Christmas tree and decorations up as soon as it hits...

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How to ease stress in motherhood with EFT (tapping)

How to ease stress in motherhood with EFT (tapping)

I'm always interested in learning about how to ease stress and any other negative emotions such as overwhelm, fear, anxiety or worry. There's nothing wrong with having these emotions. They're completely normal and human, and we all experience them. But it is helpful...

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6 Calming breathing techniques that will make your day better

6 Calming breathing techniques that will make your day better

The way you breathe affects your whole body and how you feel. That means if you change the way you breathe you can change the way you feel. In fact, it’s one of the fastest ways to change the way you feel. I can personally attest to this, as I've come to really love...

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Why you need to take a pause

Why you need to take a pause

How fast are you running each day, lovely mum? Of course, I don’t mean actually physically running, but rather, rushing. Life can be so fast paced. I've learned to follow my son’s pace during the day where possible. I avoid over scheduling and give him some choice and...

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Why you should listen to your intuition (and how to hear it)

Why you should listen to your intuition (and how to hear it)

Disclosure: This post contains an affiliate link, and at no additional cost to you, I’ll earn a small commission if you decide to purchase after clicking through the link. I’ll only ever recommend things that I love and believe will help you, and the decision to...

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How to set healthy boundaries to protect your wellbeing

How to set healthy boundaries to protect your wellbeing

Let’s start with a bit of reflection. How many of these things do you do? Change your opinions or decisions to match other people’s, even if they don’t align with your values? Feel like you’re at the mercy of everyone else’s needs and priorities, with nothing left for...

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Why you don’t have to love every moment of motherhood

Why you don’t have to love every moment of motherhood

Enjoy every moment  It’s the sort of thing that well-meaning people say when you’re preparing for the birth of your baby. They also say it when you’re talking wistfully about how fast your children are growing up. Or when you’re sharing something about mum life that...

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Your attention is the key to getting more done

Your attention is the key to getting more done

Disclosure: This post contains an affiliate link, and at no additional cost to you, I’ll earn a small commission if you decide to purchase after clicking through the link. I’ll only ever recommend things that I love and believe will help you, and the decision to...

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How to find balance in life as a busy mum

How to find balance in life as a busy mum

Are you constantly trying to achieve the right balance in your life?  Do you feel like you’re neglecting certain areas of your life? Or do you feel like some parts of your life are pulling you and demanding a disproportionate amount of your time and energy? Before I...

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What you need to know about postnatal depression

What you need to know about postnatal depression

Our visions of motherhood tend to be pretty rosy. We imagine the baby snuggles, the cute outfits and the unconditional, fiercely protective love that we're told will overcome us.  Adjusting to life with a new baby is hard enough, and even harder if you're also dealing...

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How to replace stress with joy this Christmas (Part 1)

How to replace stress with joy this Christmas (Part 1)

Does your ideal Christmas look like something out of a Netflix Christmas special? I’m the first to admit that I get totally caught up in whole experience of Christmas. I love buying and wrapping presents, baking, making craft, decorating, getting together with friends...

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25 ways to save time and save your sanity

25 ways to save time and save your sanity

For as long as I can remember, when I asked my Dad how his day was, he would respond in a weary tone, “busy”. It became a bit of a running joke in our house. As an adult, I realised that I had subconsciously taken on this same mindset. I used to always feel like I was...

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